Masculinity

by TL

The term masculinity is defined as “possessing qualities or characteristics considered typical of or appropriate to a man.” But what are the characteristics of a masculine man? I believe a masculine man possesses these characteristics:

  • Confidence
  • Sense of Humor
  • Strong eye contact
  • Good body language
  • Loud clear speaker
  • Leader (leads interactions)
  • Dominant (not aggressive or dominating)
  • Strong (beliefs and reality)
  • Self reliant (not needy – sexually or emotionally)
  • Interesting
  • Comfortable (anywhere)
  • Positive (optimistic)
  • Always learning
  • Unpredictable
  • Uncontrollable (a challenge)
  • Sexual skills
  • Follows his OWN standards thus is INTERNALLY VALIDATED
  • Does not look for approval from others
  • Does things because that is part of who he is
  • Persistence

Conveying these characteristics, makes women feel attraction for the man who is displaying them. The more characteristics you posses, the stronger a woman will emotionally respond to you. The characteristics above are literally the keys to attracting a woman.

In the video below, you will see an example of what happens when a man fails to be masculine. After the video ends, I want you to take a few minutes and think of what you would have done in the main character’s situation. Leave your response in the comment section. I will make a follow up post giving a few examples of how the protagonist could have reacted and which reaction would have been the most appropriate.

Remember to leave a comment stating what you would have done in his situation!

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How To Get A Girl To Take Naked Pictures

by TL

If I were to tell some of the guys I know that they could get their girlfriends to take super naughty naked pictures, they would call me crazy. Not their sweet little angels! Not their innocent princesses! Their girlfriends would never do that! Well at least not for them. However they would do it for some other guy. A guy like me for instance. Or maybe for a guy like you?

Why would girls take naughty pics of themselves and send them over their phones to some guys and not others? Or why would women allow some guys to take naked pictures of them and act like it’s a major taboo around other guys?

It all comes down to your mentality. For most guys, girls sending a few naked sexy pictures over the phone is a major event. A lot of guys act like it’s a really big deal. And girls pick up on it right away.

You don’t have to specifically mention anything about naked pictures, girls will realize it’s a big deal for you just by how you react to other sexually related activities. They can even pick up subtle hints from your personality. This is all well and nice, but how do you become one of the guys that girls are ready to take naked pics for?

Don’t Make Sex Into A Big Deal – Believe it or not, the more important sex is to you, the less you will get of it. If you are horny, needy, or desperate for sex – girls will sense it like sharks sense blood in the water. This will make anything related to sex (aka – naked pics) an uphill battle for you. A battle which you have almost no chance of winning.

Alcohol Lowers Inhibitions – Although I don’t like using it, alcohol is quite effective at lowering inhibitions. Having a drink or two puts you and the girl in a more calm, relaxed, pleasant, and suggestive mood. A mood where anything can happen. Just remember that moderation is key – for more reasons that one.

Make Sure Your Environment Is Comfortable – When asking to take naked pictures of a woman, you should be in a comfortable place, preferably a bedroom where it’s not too cold or hot. You want her to feel comfortable staying naked.

Start Small – When asking to take naked pictures of a girl, you should first start small. Compliment her on a great feature she has and ask her if you can take a quick picture of it. For example, “You have the most beautiful breasts I have ever seen, I want to take a picture of them.”

Gain Her Trust – Tell her no one will ever see the pictures, except for her and you. Let her know that you want the pic(s) because seeing her naked turns you on. I encourage you to be honest here and to be a man of your word. Don’t show them to anyone.

Make It Fun – Once she allows you to take a picture, turn it into a photo shoot where you are the camera man. Tell her to pout, make a sexy face, blow you a kiss, etc. Then snap some more pics.

Show A Sign Of Good Faith – Ask her to chose her favorite out of all the pictures you took. Then go through the pics and show her your favorite. Tell her only those two will be kept. Proceed to delete the rest of photos while she is with you. This will ensure there are only a couple of naked pictures and that the experience was something you both enjoyed. It will also build trust for future photo shoots.

Troubleshooting:

If she has objections you will have to address them. Here are some of the most common objections and ways of dealing with them.

Moving Too Fast

If she says that she does not know you and that you are moving too fast, it’s usually a comfort issue. You will need to make her feel more comfortable. She is rejecting the idea because, she does not know enough about you. She really doesn’t know if you will share the pictures with others or keep them to yourself. Since she is unsure, she will decline to pose naked.

In this case, you need to back off. Tell her, “We don’t have to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, let’s just chill.”  Then proceed to tell her more about yourself (share stories, experiences, etc). Basically build more of a connection. Depending on how she feels afterwards, you can try again or wait until some other time. You will have to use common sense and see if she is open to the idea. If not, don’t push it.

Is Afraid Someone She Knows Will See Them

Tell her it’s cool and that you won’t take a picture of her face, just her body. This should disarm her objections since no one will be able to recognize any of her intimate areas unless they are already familiar with them.

She Says She’s Taken Them Before And The Guy Shared Them With Everyone

In this case, get on your computer and “Google” them, they’re already on the internet! Just kidding. In this instance it’s a trust issue. Basically she was open to it before, but because some guy wasn’t able to keep the pics to himself, he ruined it for everyone else. Just build more trust.

Again, start small and don’t make it into a big deal. Tell her, “Well, I’m not like other guys, I’m not interested in the typical sexy pics. (switch to sexual tone) I want a pic of your…(pause)… ankle, and then…we will move to your amazingly sexy…(pause)…elbow! Oh yes.”

Keep it light and fun, then snap a photo of her ankle. Then tell her to pose her elbow. Proceed to tell her, “I promise to keep these very sexy pics to myself without sharing them. It will be challenging, but I will do this for you. If I do this successfully for a week, we will take even sexier ones. Deal?” If she is not laughing by now, move on bc she is probably a prude. You will probably not have to wait a week, you can even keep pushing the envelope with, “No, wait, I must have one of the jaw as well. Yes, very nice. And the shoulders. Amazing! Oh, wait, what do we have here? The ladies, yes, they are twins, just one quick one. Yes, good. Nice.”

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Hope I’ve given you something to think about. If you have any other questions, hit me up in the comments section below.

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Can You Learn How To Attract Women?

by TL

Many of my friends don’t think so. They don’t believe they can improve their dating lives at all, let alone imagine that you can learn how to attract women at will. They think I am naturally skilled. It certainly appears that way. When I approach women, it looks easy. And it should – I’ve been practicing for over 10 years. I can spot the subtle signs that a girl likes you.

I’ve told some of my friends that I was a virgin up until my twenty-first birthday, but they thought I was joking. Most of them said, “You were born with these skills, we weren’t.” Saying I was born with the skills to attract women is like saying Tiger Woods was born with the skills to be a great golfer. Neither is true. We both practiced. A lot!

And that’s the good news. No matter who you are and what your situation is, you can learn to attract women. It may take you a few weeks, a few months, or a few years – it all depends on you. Like I said in the approaching women post, we are all different.

If you are in your late forties, you are going to have a harder time approaching, talking to, and attracting women in their early twenties. Your age will hinder you to some extent, but it should not stop you. You’ll just have to work a bit harder than a young buck.

If you are overweight, you are going to have a harder time sparking attraction when you first approach a woman. It will be a bit harder for you than it is for a guy who’s in really great shape. Doesn’t mean you can’t do it.

If you are short, girls will make it more difficult for you to talk to them. You may need to make more approaches in order to find a woman who will not care about your height. Still, you will find her.

No matter what your current dating situation looks like, you can improve it. Take it from me, it can be done. You just have to believe it and start practicing. Learning how to attract women is like any other skill – the more you practice, the better you become.

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The 3 Biggest Secrets To Having An Overabundance of Women In Your Life

by TL

The dating and seduction industry is a billion dollar industry. There are thousands of books, videos, and seminars produced every year that target struggling lonely men who want to learn how to attract women. Almost all of these products offer solutions in the form of techniques, strategies, or tactics. While these products sound like the ideal solution to helping men become better with women, most of these products make exaggerated claims that rarely lead to tangible results. Still, men continue to purchase tons of these products every year. Each man hoping that he will find the magic pill that will help him improve his dating life in the near future.

I can relate to these men. I’ve been there. I’ve spent just a little under $10,000 on ebooks, DVDs, coaching, and seminars. For over ten years, I’ve read, bought, learned, tried, and tested almost every tactic out there. And I’ve found the holy grail of seduction. Do you want to know what it is? Of course you do!!!

Now, I could over-complicate things and hype up the answer in order to sell you a $500 product that would “solve all of your dating problems magically” but I won’t. I’ll share what I’ve learned with you free of charge.

There are only three main things you need to train yourself to do in order to have a staggering amount of women in your life. I say train because you can’t just learn how to do these things by reading this article. You actually have to go out there and practice. I know, it’s painful, but it’s the only way.

Approach Any Woman At Anytime Anywhere

One of the big secrets to getting good at the seduction game is your ability to approach. The more you approach, the more women you meet, and the more options you have. This means that if you see a woman that strikes your fancy, you must have the ability to go up and talk to her no matter what. It should not matter if it is daytime or nighttime. It should not matter if she is alone or in a group. It should not matter if she is in a mall, church, restaurant, or library. Your inability to overcome your limiting beliefs about when it’s a proper time to approach will greatly hinder you in your quest to become good at attracting women.

However, if you are able to train yourself to make the approach regardless of external conditions, you will drastically increase the number of women in your life.

Advice

Start Slow – Regardless of where you are, start by giving a woman you find attractive good eye contact (do not look away before she does). Then when you see another woman you find attractive, go over and just say, “Hello.” Then start a conversation with the next woman that you fancy.

Avoid Thinking – Usually when guys want to approach a woman, they want to go in prepared with something to say. They soon start judging what they would say in a negative light. It isn’t long before they are second guessing everything. Avoid this! Instead just make the approach. Your brain will come up with something when you arrive in front of her; if it doesn’t you can always fall back on “Hello.”

Set Low Standards For Success – When men approach women, they are already thinking about the interaction they are going to have. Men want to walk away from the interaction as winners. They want a phone number, a date, or even a pleasant goodbye. This leads them to put too much pressure on themselves.  They start making mistakes by trying too hard, being nervous, showing insecurity, or losing their cool. Instead of putting pressure on yourself to succeed, just make the approach.

This last tip brings us to the second critical component to getting more women than a rock star.

Be Outcome Independent Regardless Of Women’s Reactions

Cultivating the ability to not care whether an interaction leads to a certain result is not easy. We all want our interactions with women to go well. We all want to be adored by the women we talk to.

No guy wants the woman he approaches to snub him, but it happens. And often it happens because women can smell when you have an agenda. They can tell when you are searching for a certain reaction or result. It is the “need to make something happen” that often repels the women around you.

If you want something to happen with a certain woman you like, you will start over-analyzing everything she says and does. You may start trying too hard and pushing too much for certain things to happen. This may lead you to become needy, forceful, or domineering. Even if you think you are good at hiding what you feel, you will show it subtly through your eyes, mannerisms, and body language.

Outcome dependence can apply to both positive as well as negative reactions. For example, when a girl shows you signs that she likes you and is enjoying your company, you start enjoying her positive reactions. This will make you feel good inside and you will start liking her. You may even start thinking about how you two will get intimate and maybe how she will become your future girlfriend.

Meanwhile, if another guy comes and she starts sending him the IOIs – your emotional state will change. Now you will start feeling the negative reactions. You’ll start wanting to get her back. Even if you try to talk to other girls, she’ll be on your mind. You won’t be able to shake it because you’ve become outcome dependent.

Advice

Stop Becoming Attached – In your interactions with women, train yourself to not care what happens. If you see yourself becoming attached to a certain result, take a deep breath and let it go.

Give Zero Importance To Reactions – Most guys get caught up in good or bad reactions. They become excited when they get a positive response, but become depressed when they get a negative response. You must learn to not become attached to either. You can not control other people’s reactions, but you can control your emotional state.

Persist In The Face Of Rejection

The best guys at getting girls persist in the face of rejection. Most men can only take one or two rejections the whole night. Then they are out of the game, sitting at the bar nursing their egos with alcohol.

Think that’s rough? I have friends that sometimes get snubbed 10-15 times in a row!

But unlike the pansies that give up after a couple of rough snubs, these guys continue to make approaches. And guess what? They never complain about it. They just do it! Like the champions that they are! And at the end of the night, when other chumps are sitting around pouting, these guys are walking out with girls.

What most seduction coaches won’t tell you is that we are all different. Some of us are born with natural advantages; others with disadvantages. We all have different physical appearances, personalities, and skills. Some of us have to put in very little effort, while others have to put in a lot.

Some guys only have to approach 2-3 women before they find one that likes them. Other guys may have to approach 10-15. Still others may have to approach 20-30. The guy who gets the girls is the guy who persists.

You can drastically decrease the number of rejections you get by improving your physical appearance, enriching your personality, and learning game – but in the end, you will still have to persist.

Advice

Keep Going – If you go out and want to meet a woman, keep going no matter how bad it gets. My persistent friends sometimes have to talk to 8-12 women before finding 1 that is really into them. The secret is that they keep going until they find her.

Cool Off – If your night is going especially bad and you are facing a barrage of rejections – then take a break. Get a glass of water. Go sit down somewhere away from other people. Just blank out for 10 minutes. Do not think about women or approaching. After chilling out, come back and start again. If it is still bad, consider changing locations and going somewhere else.

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Even though there are other subtle nuances to meeting and attracting women, you can attain more than your fair share of beautiful women by working on the three skills above. They are the fundamentals to learning how to become good with women. Let other men chase fancy tactics, routines, and techniques. While they’re learning how to look flashy, you’ll be mastering what really works!

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Sex – Sometimes It Does NOT Count?

by TL

As you can see, the articles on this site are mainly written in a clean and professional tone, but every once in a while I diverge from my standard voice in order to give things to you as they are. Raw, unclean, and uncut! My thoughts in their purest form – based mainly on my personal experiences with women up until this point in my life. Today, I’ll be discussing when sex doesn’t count.

If you are one of those guys that cares about how many men a woman’s slept with up until she met you, I want to tell you to stop torturing yourself right now! You will never ever really know!!! Sure you could find that totally cool girl that will tell you the REAL number, but you stand a better chance of getting struck by lighting while standing outside in a thunderstorm holding a 30 foot metal pole.

Most of the girls I’ve met lie about the number of guys they have slept with. Even the ones that believe they are telling the truth have really complex algorithmic equations for deducing whether a romp in the hay with a guy actually counted as having sex. This wouldn’t be that bad if you could duplicate their formula (via the Scientific Method), but alas science and logic have nothing to do with it.

A woman’s brain works very differently than your own. Women operate using their own rules, rationalizations, philosophies, and calculations – this amalgamation of illogical conclusions can baffle even the most brilliant of minds. Below are a few examples of flawed logic that will lead to conservative sexual estimates in a woman’s mind.

Example 1

I met a girl in college who was extremely cute, she was 19, but looked 3 years younger. She was also a virgin and as I found out later – she was really into me. I had been seeing her for about a month and we had done just about everything – except have sex. One night we went out with a group of friends and got drunk. On the way home she decided to give me road head (the best head there is). I barely parked the car and was about to blow my joy juice in her mouth when she said, “Tonight is the night.”

I stopped, zipped up my pants, and we went into her bedroom. We started making out, got naked, and I popped on a condom. I tried sticking my penis in, but it only went in about 2-3 inches. I tried to push it in completely. I got in about 5 or 6 thrusts, but they were really shallow. She started complaining about the pain so I stopped. The next day, I left the city and was gone for a couple of months. I was busy with other girls so I didn’t call her and we didn’t hang out when I returned.

I told a few of my friends what happened (one of them used this against me). That’s why you should never kiss and tell, it’s a dating mistake. Anyways, I counted it as a lay. Penis + Vagina + 5 Thrusts = Sex   Right? It may not have been tantric super amazing sex, but by all other definitions there was penetration. Well, to my surprise she told me to my face that we never had sex. She’s was still a virgin! Zing!

Example 2

Went out to this bar with my friends. Met a cute girl. I was having a great time hanging out, while she played “cock roulette.” If you are not familiar with “cock roulette,” it’s basically where a pretty girl will play social butterfly –  going around the bar flirting with anywhere from 3-6 guys in one night, eventually taking 1 guy home, thus ending the game. In this particular instance, I was the guy.

Since I didn’t have my car, I had a friend drop us off at my place. We went up to my bedroom and got to doing the deed. I had sex with her for about 45 minutes, but I could not for the life of me blow my load. She tried giving me a blow job (lacked skills), but to no avail. We went to sleep. I dropped her off in the morning and didn’t see her for 5 months.

One day I bump into her, I tease her a little, then mention that we should get together again. She declines telling me she has a boyfriend (yeah, she also had one when we knocked boots). It’s my belief she will come have sex if we spend a little more time together, so I ask her to join me at a taco place. It didn’t go down as I planned, but she said yes to the taco place.

She hopped in my car, we went to the restaurant, and ordered some food. As we are chatting the subject of sex partners and that night come up. Turns out, I’m not counted as a sex partner because I didn’t achieve climax. If you feel you understand the logic here, leave me a comment.

Example 3

Met this cute girl while out with one of my best friends. Some weirdo was trying to get her into his van to smoke weed. I came in, made the group laugh and moved next to her. Weirdo disappeared. She was a tall brunette. Really cute. I talked to her a bit and started liking her. She was feminine and had sexy mannerisms. I was smitten. We went out once and I was already eating her snatch (yes, it was tasty!) She then gave me a BJ in return (yay! she reciprocated).

One day we are at my house and we are fooling around on the bed. I’m going down, she’s going down. It’s all good. I am ready for sex. She is hesitant telling me how she hardly knows me and she’s not that type of girl. I understand. I go slow. I decide there is no point in rushing. I just enjoy the moment.

Then as she is on top of me – naked – I become as hard as hard can be. She proceeds to put her beaver on my log and begins to rub it like she is trying to start a fire. She then proceeds to stick my dick inside her, but quickly jumps off when I mention we should use a condom. She mentions how “We are not having sex.” Ok, fine, but then she proceeds to execute the same move 3 more times. I decide that I can skip the condom and attempt to grab her waist so I can start thrusting, but she won’t let me do that either. When I mention the condom again, she stops. When I ask her what happened, she says, “Nothing. We didn’t have sex or anything.” Really? Cause it sure felt like I was deep inside you, even if it was just for a few seconds.

Example 4

Was out at a big club. Met a girl who was out celebrating her birthday. She was average looking, but in this club she was one of the more attractive girls. She was sending me the usual signs a girls sends when she likes you. She offered me a shot. I took it and drank it with her and her friends. She asked me if I was down to party later (it’s not always this easy). I let her know I was and she invited me to an after-party. I showed up with my friend and pretty soon her and I were making out.

She then dragged me to her bedroom. It got hot and heavy. A couple of people knocked on the door, but it was locked so they went away shortly after. We did the nasty and then fell asleep.

I woke up to the sounds of her cell phone going off. This was like the 3rd time. I looked at her caller ID and it was a guy’s name. I woke her up. She got up and proceeded to talk to this guy for 5 minutes. Turns out, it was her boyfriend. As she was taking me home, I asked her about our night and her boyfriend. Word for word she said, “Oh, it was my birthday. I got drunk. It’s not like it was serious or anything.”

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These examples were the most prominent in my mind, but if I sat down and really thought about it, I’m sure I could find more. Keep them in mind when you are thinking about asking a woman how many men she’s slept with. Better yet, keep them in mind when she actually tells you.

Feel free to leave your comments below.

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The 21 Biggest Dating Mistakes Men Make

March 29, 2011

Dating Mistake #21: Not Screening Women – Some men fail from the very start of their relationships. These men lack the ability to filter out the women they are incompatible with. These men will try to “make it work” with the particular women they are after even though those women may be completely wrong for [...]

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